YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE’S CUP OF TEA… AND THAT’S OK
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are your people.
Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince people who aren’t your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.
Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are.
Be who you are. You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.
I recently came across this text and the words stuck a chord.
Obviously, the first people who came to my mind were the Witch, Perceval and their Manager. But well, I remember that it didn’t take me too much time to see that they weren’t worth my attention and that I could not change anything. It was a bit more difficult about their manager because until then, he had been a person which I trusted so it struck me very hard when I realized that it was not reciprocal. In the end, I decided to let go.
It became more complex when I started thinking how much time I had spent desperately trying to convince one person that I was not negative. My emotional health suffered a lot more in that situation, than it had because of all the toxic people I came across. The article above does not tell us what we should do when the people who love us, become the ones who do not understand us anymore and who hurt us.
Until now, I had always thought of us as two cups of tea on the same tea tray. Have I been that much mistaken about that relation ?
… now I wonder why the first analogy that comes to my mind, is the one with the two teacups. Maybe our relation existed only because we shared the same tea tray and it won’t exist anymore once I leave. Will I be able to resign to that ?